In the Matter of WILLIAM I. DARROW, Respondent,
AMBER L. DARROW, Appellant. (Proceeding No. 1.) In the Matter of KIM M. HIBBARD, Respondent,
AMBER DARROW, Appellant, et al., Respondent. (Proceeding No. 2.) (And Another Related Proceeding.)
Calendar Date: April 22, 2013
Teresa C. Mulliken, Harpersfield, for appellant.
Petrick & Kapur, Endicott (David E. Kapur of counsel), for William I. Darrow, respondent.
Richard J. Grace, Binghamton, for Kim M. Hibbard, respondent.
Judith E. Osburn, Binghamton, attorney for the children.
Before: Lahtinen, J.P., Stein, McCarthy and Egan Jr., JJ.
MEMORANDUM AND ORDER
Egan Jr., J.
Appeals from two decisions and two orders of the Family Court of Broome County (Pines, J.), entered November 22, 2011, which, among other things, granted petitioners' applications, in proceeding Nos. 1 and 2 pursuant to Family Ct Act article 6, for custody of the subject children.
Respondent Amber L. Darrow (hereinafter the mother) is the mother of three children — Nathaniel (born in 1998), Christian (born in 2001) and Gianna (born in 2005). Petitioner William I. Darrow (hereinafter Darrow), whom the mother married in 2006, is the father of Nathaniel and Gianna. Respondent Matthew J. Hibbard (hereinafter Hibbard) is the father of Christian, and petitioner Kim M. Hibbard (hereinafter the grandmother) is Christian's paternal grandmother. The mother and Darrow lived together with all three children until early 2010 when, in response to the mother's alleged infidelity, Darrow asked her to leave the marital residence.
The parties appear to have enjoyed a reasonably amicable relationship until late August 2010, when the Broome County Department of Social Services (hereinafter DSS) advised the mother that she was the subject of a report of suspected child abuse or maltreatment. In response, Darrow commenced proceeding No. 1 seeking custody of Nathaniel and Gianna, and Family Court (Connerton, J.) temporarily awarded the mother and Darrow joint legal custody of the children with primary physical custody to Darrow . Additionally, the grandmother commenced proceeding No. 2 seeking custody of Christian, and Family Court (Brockway, J.) granted her temporary custody of the child with supervised visitation to the mother and visitation to Hibbard as outlined in a June 2004 order . Shortly thereafter, Hibbard commenced proceeding No. 3 seeking sole custody of Christian. Approximately nine months later, Hibbard amended his petition and requested that he and the grandmother be granted joint custody. In the interim, DSS advised Family Court that the report against the mother would be indicated for inadequate guardianship. 
Following separate fact-finding and Lincoln hearings, Family Court awarded sole legal and physical custody of Nathaniel and Gianna to Darrow and weekend visitation to the mother. As to Christian, Family Court found that extraordinary circumstances existed and awarded the grandmother and Hibbard joint legal custody of the child with primary physical custody to the grandmother and weekend visitation to the mother . These appeals by the mother ensued. 
We turn first to Family Court's decision to award sole custody of Nathaniel and Gianna to Darrow. The primary concern in any custody matter is, of course, the best interests of the children and, to that end, Family Court must give due consideration to, among other things, "each parent's ability to furnish and maintain a suitable and stable home environment for the child[ren], past performance, relative fitness, ability to guide and provide for the child[ren]'s overall well-being and willingness to foster a positive relationship between the child[ren] and the other parent" (Matter of Melissa WW. v Conley XX., 88 A.D.3d 1199, 1200 , lv denied 18 N.Y.3d 803 ; see Matter of Ames v Ames, 97 A.D.3d 914, 914-915 , lv denied 20 N.Y.3d 852 ; Matter of Raynore v Raynore, 92 A.D.3d 1167, 1168 ). In view of Family Court's ability to observe the witnesses' testimony first hand, its credibility determinations — if supported by sound and substantial evidence in the record as a whole — will not be disturbed (see Matter of Raynore v Raynore, 92 A.D.3d at 1168; Matter of Baker v Baker, 82 A.D.3d 1462, 1462 ). 
The mother initially contends that Nathaniel's and Gianna's interests would best be served by an award of joint custody. Although an award of joint custody "is an aspirational goal in every custody matter" (Matter of Melissa WW. v Conley XX., 88 A.D.3d at 1200 [internal quotation marks and citations omitted]), such an award is not feasible where, as here, the parties' relationship and history evidences an inability to work and communicate with one another in a cooperative fashion (see Matter of Michael GG. v Melissa HH., 97 A.D.3d 993, 994-995 ; Jeannemarie O. v Richard P., 94 A.D.3d 1346, 1347 ).
As for Family Court's award of sole custody to Darrow, the record reflects that Darrow continues to live in the same three-bedroom house where Nathaniel and Gianna resided for most of their lives and that each child has his or her own room. Additionally, Darrow has been employed as a refrigeration and air conditioning technician for the past 12 years, provides health insurance for the children through his employer and schedules and takes the children to their medical appointments. Although Darrow and the mother "shared" custody of the children between April 2010 and August 2010, Darrow testified that the children were with him the majority of the time and that he made efforts to coordinate visits between the children and Christian. On the other hand, the mother resided in a number of locations after moving out of the marital residence and, at the time of the hearing, was living in an apartment with a friend; the mother's name was not on the lease, she was not paying any rent and all three children would need to share the same bedroom. Additionally, the mother, who was not employed while living with Darrow, thereafter worked sporadically in a number of positions — most recently as a licensed hairdresser. Moreover, even assuming that the mother was the primary caregiver prior to her separation from Darrow, her subsequent lifestyle could fairly be characterized as unstable, chaotic and generally not conducive to effectively parenting children. On balance, and ...