Calendar Date: March 19, 2013
Clifford Gordon, Monticello, for appellant.
Marcia Heller, Rock Hill, attorney for the child.
Before: Peters, P.J., Rose, Stein and Egan Jr., JJ.; Spain J., vouched in.
MEMORANDUM AND ORDER
Appeal from an order of the Family Court of Sullivan County (Meddaugh, J.), entered February 16, 2012, which, among other things, granted petitioner's application, in proceeding No. 2 pursuant to Family Ct Act article 6, for custody of the subject child.
Marcus CC. (hereinafter the father) and respondent Erica BB. (hereinafter the mother) are the parents of a son, born in 1997. In 1999, the parents agreed to an order awarding sole custody to the mother and visitation to the father. The mother and child moved to North Carolina for a year, but returned to Sullivan County in 2000 and resided with the father until 2001. The mother and child then lived with petitioner Maria DD., the child's maternal grandmother, and, although the mother left the grandmother's apartment and established her own apartment nearby, the child continued to live with the grandmother. In 2011, shortly after the mother was indicted for aggravated driving while ability impaired by drugs, the father and grandmother each filed custody petitions. The mother, who was incarcerated at the time, pleaded guilty to the charge against her and was determined to have neglected her children, including the son. Family Court then held a hearing on the custody petitions, found that the grandmother established extraordinary circumstances, and awarded her sole custody. The father now appeals.
We affirm. "It is fundamental that a biological parent has a claim of custody of his or her child, superior to that of all others, in the absence of surrender, abandonment, persistent neglect, unfitness, disruption of custody over an extended period of time or other extraordinary circumstances" (Matter of Burghdurf v Rogers, 233 A.D.2d 713, 714 , lv denied 89 N.Y.2d 810  [internal quotation marks and citations omitted]; see Matter of Michael B., 80 N.Y.2d 299, 309 ; Matter of Male Infant L., 61 N.Y.2d 420, 426-427 ; Matter of Dickson v Lascaris, 53 N.Y.2d 204, 208 ; Matter of Bennett v Jeffreys, 40 N.Y.2d 543, 549 ). The relevant factors to be considered in determining whether extraordinary circumstances exist include "'the length of time the child has lived with the nonparent, the quality of that relationship and the length of time the biological parent allowed such custody to continue without trying to assume the primary parental role'" (Matter of Burton v Barrett, 104 A.D.3d 1084, 1085 , quoting Matter of Bevins v Witherbee, 20 A.D.3d 718, 719 ; see Matter of Carpenter v Puglese, 94 A.D.3d 1367, 1368 ). It is the nonparent's burden to establish extraordinary circumstances (see Matter of Golden v Golden, 91 A.D.3d 1042, 1043 ) and, when that burden is met, custody is determined based upon the child's best interests (see Matter of Daphne OO. v Frederick QQ., 88 A.D.3d 1167, 1168 ; Matter of Tennant v Philpot, 77 A.D.3d 1086, 1087-1088 ).
Here, at the time of the hearing, the child was 14 years old and had resided with the grandmother since he was four or five years old. Their strong relationship was amply developed and established in the record. The father testified that he knew for years that the mother was incapable of caring for the child and that the child had been living with the grandmother. In fact, he acknowledged that he could have sought custody of the child five years earlier, but did not do so until he received notice that the mother had been arrested, which resulted in a neglect petition being brought against the mother in May 2011. In our view, this acknowledgment is significant in that it demonstrates that the father knowingly allowed the child to reside with the grandmother without attempting to assume the primary parental role under circumstances in which it would have been reasonable to do so.
Notwithstanding that the mother resided near the grandmother and that the child saw the mother regularly, the uncontroverted evidence established that the grandmother has, together with some assistance from the mother, met the majority of the child's day-to-day needs and has been primarily responsible for his care for the greater part of the child's life (compare Matter of Burton v Barrett, 104 A.D.3d at 1085-1086) . Under these circumstances, we disagree with the dissent's conclusions that the mother was actually exercising her legal rights to custody or that it is dispositive that the disruption in the father's custody occurred during a time in which the mother had such legal rights. Moreover, the child has not resided with the father in over a decade. Although the father has maintained contact with the child — in person and by telephone — while the child has been in the grandmother's care, Family Court discredited the father's testimony regarding the frequency of his visitation and concluded that such visitation was sporadic, with limited overnight stays. In addition, the father was unable to remember the names of any of the child's teachers or doctors and testified to minimal involvement in the child's education and medical treatment. 
While, perhaps, not directly relevant to the grandmother's burden of demonstrating extraordinary circumstances, the father's conduct throughout these proceedings was consistent with his pre-petition failure to assume the primary parenting role. For example, Family Court noted that, despite having been awarded temporary custody of the child during the pendency of the custody proceedings, the father did not assume custody of the child, and the child remained in the grandmother's care. When asked why he did not assume custody of the child, the father first claimed that he never received the temporary order in the mail, yet he was present when the court pronounced the terms of such order and he relied upon the temporary order to seek termination of his child support obligation and to apply for certain government benefits for the child. The father then gave contradictory testimony in which he conceded that he did receive the temporary order, but explained that he did not take custody of the child because he "was upset" that he had only "gotten temporary custody."
Considering the situation as a whole and according due deference to Family Court's factual findings and credibility assessments (see Matter of Rodriguez v Delacruz-Swan, 100 A.D.3d 1286, 1289 ; Matter of Magana v Santos, 70 A.D.3d 1208, 1209 ), we discern a sound and substantial basis in the record for that court's determination that the grandmother established the existence of extraordinary circumstances (see Matter of James NN. v Cortland County Dept. of Social Servs., 90 A.D.3d 1096, 1098 ; Matter of Magana v Santos, 70 A.D.3d at 1209; see also Matter of Bishunath v Bishunath, 90 A.D.3d 654, 654 ; compare Matter of Aylward v Bailey, 91 A.D.3d 1135, 1136 ).
Moreover, Family Court's finding that an award of custody to the grandmother was in the child's best interests has ample support in the record. Most notably, the grandmother has been the child's main source of stability for a majority of his life and has been able to meet his physical, emotional and educational needs. The grandmother has been supportive of the child's relationship with his father and the award of custody to the grandmother is consistent with the position advocated by the attorney for the child. In contrast, the child has had only a few overnight visits with the father. The father's involvement with the child has been inconsistent and he is unfamiliar with the basic details of the child's life, which, in our review, represents a substantial abdication of his parental responsibilities (see Matter of James NN. v Cortland County Dept. of Social Servs., 90 A.D.3d at 1098). Therefore, based upon the totality of the circumstances (see Matter of Carpenter v Puglese, 94 A.D.3d at 1369), we discern no basis for disturbing ...